What We're Doing Now, 55 Years Later
Am slowly learning new technologies and even enjoying it. −Francine Grossbart Aaron
We have a book club in our community and I try to read the books and participate in the discussions. We see quite a bit of theater (the New York shows send troupes to Florida), Met Opera transmissions on Saturday afternoons, the Miami Ballet, and a couple of concert series. I’m still busy with my knitting and needlepoint.
−Alice Finkelstein Alekman
I got my first passport in 2010 at age 71 and started modest international travel with Road Scholar.
−Judith Levy Bergman
My husband and I study Mishnah together every morning; I'm trying to learn all 24 books of the Hebrew Bible
−Rivkah Teitz Blau
I joined the OLLI Lifelong Learning program at Stony Brook, and am going full force. Ten workshops this semester in everything from science to public opinion to French. This in addition to three book groups, one of which is the Barnard ’62 group.
−Michele Chaussabel
At a time when many of my peers have retired and are pursuing post-career interests, I find myself working harder than at any time in my life. Now in the 19th year of my second university presidency, I continue to derive immense satisfaction in making public higher education accessible to the largest possible number of students who have demonstrated the ability to benefit from it.
−Susan Ablon Cole
I have always wanted to be more fluent in French. My work has made me a fluent reader but I have always wanted to be able to feel more comfortable speaking to my French museum colleagues, collectors, dealers, and librarians. I decided to take classes at the Alliance Française in Manhattan and I am having a great time.
−Gail S. Davidson
I read, knit, design, practice cello and occasionally piano, play music with other amateurs, attend concerts, and have various friends with whom I share interests.
−Joan Gottlieb Dyer
The election this year brought out an intense new quest for information about how our democracy works and the state of politics in our country. It brought to mind the intensity of the civil rights movement during our Barnard years. In the sixties I was not ready for action. I am now.
−Vivian Levy Ebersman
I have been involved in local politics and community activity in East Hampton, New York, where I have had a second home for many years. I am trying to improve my Spanish, as a lot of political and community work here involves our large Latino community.
−Gale Zimmerman Fieldman
Looking backward, I see that in a large part, I am still doing what made me the happiest when I was 13---writing and acting.
−Diana Klabin Finegold
For the past 10-15 years I have been studying Italian. I studied French and Spanish in high school and college, and love knowing other languages, particularly when we travel. Although I am not fluent, I feel comfortable in a place in which any of those languages are spoken. I started out studying Italian at a language school in the city, and now take a private lesson once a week, in which the teacher and I converse in Italian, and discuss whatever Italian novel I happen to be reading. −Linda Roth Futterman
1982- present, Director of Public Relations at Northeast Rehabilitation Health Network
−Naomi Albert Gardner
Psychotherapist/life coach
−Susan Hayden
. . . I have found myself deeply interested in ancient and later history, and mythology. I satisfy this thirst by listening (while exercising) to the Great Courses, recorded lectures by some excellent university professors. And I challenge myself to learn without writing it down. Did you know that you can sing the sequence of Chinese dynasties to the tune of Frère Jacques?
−Carole Kaplowitz Kantor
Since 1987 I have been a full-time sculptor, crafting my pieces exclusively by direct carving to “find” form by removing mass.
−Cornelia Kubler Kavanaugh
Working full-time again as a Superior Court judge after 4½ years in retirement. . . .
I was asked to return to the bench on Recall Status because our court of 81 sitting judges has 15 openings. . . . It is a full-time job and then some. I find I am running as fast as I can, and it’s not as fast as I could. We will see how long I stick with it.
−Leila R. Kern
I am always reading, trying to learn about health matters as well as literature, politics, science, and the arts. I am pleased that I have been able to study German, since my father was opposed to studying the “language of the enemy,” and Beethoven, Mozart et al were otherwise somewhat inaccessible to me.
−Joan Lewis Thomson Kretschmer
For me, discovering the writings of the Roman historian Livy has been my most exciting intellectual adventure of the past decade. . . . And Livy led to Xenophon, and Caesar, and Pliny and Cicero and then backwards to Virgil and Homer---interspersed with many visits to Greece, Italy, Sicily, and even Carthage. . . . Now teaching myself ancient Greek, I am really looking forward to a week’s summer school, this year, where I will read Homer in the original. Latin, I hope, will be next.
−Roberta Turner Meldrum
Dermatologic Surgeon and Clinical Professor of Dermatology, NYU School of Medicine.
I am still working full-time, with offices in Manhattan and White Plains. In addition to my private practice, I teach, lecture, do clinical research and edit, peer review, and publish papers.
−Rhoda Scharf Narins
Norman and I have begun raising the necessary funds to film [my play] The Last Cyclist for educational TV, Jewish film festivals, Yom HaShoah observances, synagogues and churches, universities and secondary schools, etc. We are hoping to film at the end of August. We spend 3-4 months each year with the Reform synagogue in San Juan, which Norman serves as a visiting rabbi.
−Naomi Steinlight Patz
Supporter of theater, opera, dance, classical music, art, libraries, education, medical research. Student of Torah, Talmud, Prophets, current event classes
−Linda Rosenblum Persily
I started taking watercolor classes when I retired. I had never used this medium before and immediately enjoyed it. I am currently having a show of 25 of my paintings. I am so pleased to have an avocation that engages me and takes me into a different zone.
−Evelyn Kahn Philipps
We live in Perugia, a small city in the center of Italy, for between four and five months each year. . . . We don’t live in a grand villa in the countryside and we don’t live with retired expats; we live among Italians who work and raise their families in this charming but difficult country. Every day is a learning experience. I think you cannot really understand a culture until you live among the people and try to understand their lives.
−Suzanne Koppelman Polmar
Politics, sewing, gardening, quilting, Ethiopia, Peace Corps, Spanish, travel
−Jean Russell “Rusty” Miller Rich
I continue part-time work providing medical nutrition therapy in my private practice and devote much of the spring through fall to growing, showing, and judging exhibition chrysanthemums.
−Rita Gabler Rover
I retired from the principalship of Thomas Jefferson Middle School, Teaneck, NJ in 2006, and am currently serving as a state-certified mentor for school administrators seeking NJ certification as principal. To date, I have mentored more than 30 administrators in diverse NJ communities. I serve as a Deacon at Point Pleasant Community Baptist Church, an American Baptist congregation, and my retirement has given me time to enjoy baking again. . . . I find great pleasure in routinely baking our bread.
−Patricia Brick Schwartz
Most recent life-long learning experiences include my volunteer job at the White House and learning how to play the ukulele. I’m currently looking for a new volunteer activity, read a new book a week on average, and am a news junkie!
−Susan Taube Schwelling
I certainly feel like a life-long learner, always reading, always taking classes and attending lectures. I think learning mahjong was a new and special experience for me as something with no specific redeeming social value, just pure fun. I think my next project may be to try to learn to play bridge.
−Sara Deborah (Debby) Nemser Tolchin
Finally, I have time to read! (I've chaired the Barnard-in-Washington Book Group since 2008.) Satisfying my curiosity in many ways and enjoying my life---my classes (physical and mental), travel, movies, and BOOKS of all kinds.
−Roberta (“Bobbi”) Roth Yared
Downsizing - or not
Downsizing was difficult with a spouse who saves everything. Another complication was owning a grand piano. We ended up giving it away.
−Maya Freed Brown
We live in a ranch-style home bought almost 50 years ago (hard to believe). Living space is on one level (except for basement), so no need to downsize. Plan to stay until possible health issues in the future might prompt us to move to some sort of independent or assisted living community.
−Joan Borish Chasan
I have no plans to downsize, resize, relocate or reinvent, unless those are thrust upon me in future. I am currently happy as I am and life feels too short to spend time planning ahead, just in case.
−Marcia Dackman Davis
We still live in the same house since moving to Santa Fe 25 years ago. We do talk about the future but have no specific plans. I would prefer a warmer clime but love SF so much it will be hard to change.
−Eleanor (Ellie) Edelstein
The design and building of my dream house in the Shenandoah Valley was all-consuming for multiple years, beginning in 1999. We then shared so many wonderful times with friends and family over a 12-year period. But now we find that we no longer use this house as we did . . . for a multitude of reasons, . . . and it is now offered for sale.
This marks a major shift in my life, with contrasting feelings of sadness and also hope that the future will bring new adventures.
−Roxanne Cohen Fischer
Two years ago, we moved to a larger home. As visual arts became a more important part of my life and our painting and sculpture collection grew, we wanted more space. At the same time, I sold some of my collections of “stuff.” Despite my love of flea marketing and because our children’s lifestyles differ from ours, I try not to go looking for more things to buy.
−Libby Guth Fishman
Three years ago we moved from our house to a lovely apartment in Fort Lee where we have a wonderful view of Manhattan and the George Washington Bridge. . . . We are free to travel, just leaving our mailbox key with the concierge and off we go. This is a great life!
−Eva Lynn Goldenberg Gans
We are selling our home in Westchester and setting up the house we purchased in
Florida. . . . I am dealing with the loss of activities and friends, been forced to curtail my involvement with Barnard, and feel in many ways that my life has shrunk and is not as exciting as it was. On the plus side, my health is better away from the cold.
−Rosalind Marshack Gordon
Simplify and declutter – a must.
−Karen Charal Gross
Downsize? I sold about a third of my library, my piano, and almost all of my furniture. I picked up and did what our president, Millicent McIntosh, had advised us to do years ago: I moved to a small town where I might still be able to make a contribution and be appreciated. I've made a fresh start.
−Martha Liptzin Hauptman
Our lifestyle continues as usual. We’re very active and not interested in slowing down. Hopefully, we won’t have to.
−Harriet Kaye Inselbuch
We downsized in real estate some seven years ago and have made new friends in our apartment complex in Great Neck. To expand our friendships here, I have worked to institute cultural programming that brings our neighbors together, and these concerts and discussions make us feel surrounded by new people who are cultured and interesting.
−Joan Rezak Sadinoff Katz
I recently sold my much-loved, high-maintenance weekend home in East Hampton and bought a condo facing Mecox Bay in nearby Water Mill. A new chapter. Love living on the water, miss my garden. Especially now as spring approaches.
−Linda Schwartz Kline
We downsized drastically and dramatically in 2014 when we sold our large old house in Setauket, NY. Several dumpsters carted away trash, friends were encouraged to take things they liked, kids and grandkids took furniture and other stuff, much was sold at a giant yard sale and the rest was donated. However, we cheated. We enlarged our two-bedroom apartment on Riverside Drive by buying the apartment next door, breaking through and creating ample space to house the stuff we couldn’t bear to give up. -Eleanor Traube Kra
“Downsizing” is not the right word at all for what I have experienced. I feel enriched by this rather than diminished. It does not mean that pressures and stress are gone from my life, but rather I have gained greater balance in my life through appreciation of other things I truly enjoy. I find myself savoring that space and time and often struggling not to lose it by limiting the number of inputs---no easy task in this world of information technology.
−Marsha Corn Levine
My husband and I downsized almost three years ago, relocating from Scottsdale to Tucson to be closer to family. I had some concern about living in smaller quarters and some difficulty parting with friends and treasured possessions. None of these has turned out to be a problem.
−Jean Murray Morrison
My house burned down seven years ago. I was downsized. . . . We moved to a lovely condo. As I look out at the snow, I think: “I don’t have to shovel.” Every Sunday night, I think, “I don’t have to take out the garbage.” The words of wisdom are: Look on the bright side. I focus on the joy of having fewer possessions, and fewer maintenance tasks.
−Ruth Nemzoff
Downsizing is especially relevant to me now because I am moving to Florida, and a lot of my possessions need to go. But I am still working, at least part-time, in New York City, so I am looking forward (somewhat nervously) to a period of double residence and perhaps divided consciousness, as I will be in two quite different places. I’ll be a snowbird who won’t settle down too much.
−Elizabeth Foner Vandepaer
We lived in a spacious apartment in Park Slope, Brooklyn, and moved to a smaller apartment in Manhattan, to be closer to Lincoln Center and the things we enjoy
doing. . . . We renovated our apartment so that it would function for us as we age. It feels good to be more comfortable and have less stuff.
−Marcia Stecker Weller
I started working part-time one year ago, which has freed up more time to focus on the joys of everyday life---more time to spend with friends and family, more time to read the newspaper, cook dinner, visit museums, attend the theater. I feel like my world is expanding now, not downsizing.
−Ann Sue Kober Werner
The main downsizing I’ve been doing is purely physical. I doubt that I’ll attain wisdom, but rather, bookshelf and storage space. For several years, I’ve been trying to deal with the very large number of works of art we’ve accumulated, mostly through the generosity of artist friends. I’ve been making donations to museums, but it’s a slow, complicated process. And there are the stacks of books.
−Karen Kissin Wilkin
Words of Wisdom
I feel a deeper recognition that time is passing and things happen that are beyond our control. So I prize what I am able to do, even if I spread myself a little thin. I look for the places that make me happy, that provide a good laugh, that touch my soul.
−Judy Eisenberg Bieber
Like the poet Elizabeth Bishop, I too do not think what I do has to be large to be good.
− Sheila Levrant de Bretteville
I retired in 2010 at the age of 70. Retirement was a choice, to embark on a new path of exploration rather than, once again, to run for election as a judge. Creating a life in retirement is a quieter, less public, full-time commitment to self-expansion.
−Sandra Ravetz Edlitz
Every so often, I have a “eureka” moment, realizing that it’s OK to let go of things. I enjoy looking at the cleared spaces.
−Meira Sochen Itzkowitz
I think I am wiser than I was ten years ago because I have time to read and learn more.
−Susan Lippman Karp
Each day becomes more precious when there are fewer ahead and the quality of those days (freedom and health) will be less than at present. Carpe diem is the mantra; keeping a positive outlook and energy is the challenge at this age.
−Marsha Wittenberg Lewin Latiner
I definitely feel the previous decade brought many new insights; thanks to excellent role models, including my husband, I truly treasure the spiritual side of service to others and living life fearlessly with joy and creativity.
−Carol Murton Lavis
Let go of things that do not or should not matter---like ironing. . . . Sleep less and focus more. . . . Don’t give up/give in on the things that matter.
−Dana Lavine Levine
How we figure out and handle the challenges of aging, with the same intelligence and vigor we applied to the rest of our lives, will be what defines us as a generation.
−Rosalie Sacks Levine
I feel more content and appreciative of my life today than five years ago and I think some of this is due to demanding less of myself.
−Janice Wiegan Lieberman
Life is a series of ups and downs, sunny days and thunderstorms, so it’s important to roll with the punches, enjoy what you have, find new projects, new friends, and don’t dwell on what you can’t do or can’t afford, even at the age of 75+!
−Barbara Lovenheim
Am I wiser now than ten years ago? I do not know. I do know that our choices change as we grow older, as do our perspectives. In the years when I lived in Bombay (one of the largest cities in the world), the prospect of vegetating in a small town would have seemed like a death sentence. Now I enjoy the peace and quiet, a beautiful garden and the leisure and mindset to be able to watch the flowers, the birds, and enjoy the company of my dogs.
−Kanakalatha Narasimhan Mukund
My house burned down seven years ago. I was downsized. . . . We moved to a lovely condo. As I look out at the snow, I think,: “I don’t have to shovel,” Every Sunday night, I think, “I don’t have to take out the garbage.” The words of wisdom are: Look on the bright side. I focus on the joy of having fewer possessions, and fewer maintenance tasks.
−Ruth Nemzoff
I have learned firsthand that women alone can travel the world and when we reach this age, asking for a hand with overhead luggage is permissable.
−Joy Felsher Perla
As I have aged and gained wisdom, I have learned that a hectic pace of living and doing does not always give one time to smell the roses. So, in my search for wisdom I have tried to enjoy and savor each moment and to avoid worrying about the missed moments in life. One might call this downsizing my activities and being more selective about those which I choose to pursue.
− Susan Levenson Pringle
I am a life-long learner in more ways than formal education. I learned skills and facts in every aspect of my life. This has given me the resilience to deal with changes and trials in my life.
−Deborah Bersin Rubin
To keep intellectually active is another and more pleasurable pastime for this life phase.
−Nancy Brown Schmiderer
The notion of lots of discretionary time and unlimited opportunities to explore the bucket list has been replaced by the realization that unexpected events can derail the best-laid plans.
−Judy Terry Smith
It strikes me that in our seventies, as we come to terms with life’s “necessary losses,” with impermanence and our own mortality, some of us need to repurpose our lives and seek out what has heart and meaning for us now. .
−Alidra Solday
All in all, I'm lucky to be able to laugh at my foibles and mishaps as well as to remain enthusiastic for new adventures.
−Jacqueline Martin Stein
Each day is a gift. That’s why it’s called the present.
−Shari Gruhn Lewis Thompson
Sigmund Freud wrote: “Love and work are the cornerstones of our humanness.” I am grateful to have enjoyed the blessings of both.
−H. Barbara Kallman Weinberg
During the 30+ years I worked professionally, my goal was to learn as much as possible about the business and how to be a good manager/motivator. My philosophy then and now is that if you are no longer learning in whatever you are doing, it is time to make a change.
−Nancy Kung Wong